USING DISAPPOINTMENT AS A USEFUL GUIDE

Crushing disappointment often leaves us paralysed and incapable of anything but dwelling in a sea of destructive negativity! Our disappointments are nothing more than an indication of an unaccomplished attachment to a desired outcome. Our hope resides in the attainment of that result and when it is not fulfilled, our spirit gets broken by the ensuing disappointment.

Consciousness, or awareness, is important in that we become highly sensitised as to what is happening. More importantly, our awareness makes us listen to our inner voice and to respond appropriately. Every feeling carries the opportunity to discern how best to respond to Life's promptings. Life guides us perfectly, if only we would allow ourselves to be still enough to receive that intuitive guidance.

When disappointment comes, our most positive response would be to seek "the open door" rather than trying to proceed where Life has blocked us. In the vacuum of meditation, we are often shown what is most appropriate. We need to "still" our own wilfulness in order to discern the next best step. Subjugating the ego for something more powerful than ourselves is not passive inaction, but rather the most intelligent way forward.

Disappointment signals the existence of a more appropriate passage. Only in the fullness of time, as we reflect on the past, can we become aware of the perfection of life. As we start to expect the best in every outcome, so we soon discover how small and limited our own thinking is. Limitation is breached by actively allowing ourselves to be shown the next best small step forward.

Disappointment often comes because we are expecting too much too soon. Living a journey of significant small steps is far more effective than trying to take gigantic progressive leaps, which when found to be an impossibility, leads to withdrawal and self-sabotage.

Celebrating our life's smallest victories creates the energy that brings even more success. Such behaviour causes us to focus on the positive rather than dwelling aimlessly on what we think is wrong. As we elevate our thoughts by thinking of the small seemingly insignificant successes and being in heartfelt gratitude for these events, so we automatically create the energetic environment to attract more success.

When things don't go our way, we need to stop and reflect that some better option might exist. Rather than resorting to pointless blame or a sense of defeat, we need to look at the good things that are always happening and to give them the full attention of our being. Good luck is the preserve of those who refuse to be dogged by a sense of failure or mishap. Good fortune comes to those who are grateful for what they already have, rather than moaning about what they sense they still lack.

May our awareness of personal disappointment become an early trigger to allow ourselves to open to something more special. Being available to the considerable bounty of Life takes us beyond our limited beings into the richness of the adventure which is life. Using disappointment wisely, leads us to be MORE!